Monday, February 16, 2015

Update: Homestudy, Fundraising, & FAQ

First of all I have to say a big "Thank you!!!" to everyone for your words of encouragement and excitement regarding our adoption news.  As much as we seek to solely rely on God during this process, it sure does make it a whole lot easier when you have people cheering you on and supporting you.

Now for an update on a few things going on with our adoption:

We mentioned a few weeks ago on Facebook that we are having a yard sale to help raise funds for our adoption.  I will be sure to share that address as we get closer in case any of you want to stop by.
For now, we are still accepting donations and would love to take some stuff off your hands so just send me a message at dormineyadoption [at] gmail [dot] com or contact me on Facebook and we will arrange a time to pick your things up.  
And just FYI, anything that is not sold, will be donated to charity… NOTHING will be thrown away.  If there is something you would like back if it doesn't sell, just let me know. 

We have several other fundraisers coming up that I can't wait to share with you all as we get things more set in stone.

Adoption Process/Homestudy
We had our last home study visit this past Thursday. This visit consisted of our individual interviews and a little snooping around our house. For the most part it was pretty pain free. ;)  This whole home study process has been far less intimidating than I thought. Our social worker has been a joy to work with.  The paperwork was the most daunting part of the whole process.  I had a friend ask, "Just how much paperwork are you talking about?"  Well, about this much…

Now we wait for our social worker to writeup our home study. She projects that we should be home study approved in a few short weeks.  Yay!

We have gotten a ton of questions over the past few weeks, so we figured we would just share some answers to the most frequently asked questions so far.  If you have another questions that you don't see answered below, please feel free to ask!  We are an open book!

Who are you adopting?
We do not know exactly who we will be adopting.  We do know we will be adopting a child in the United States between the ages of birth and 6 months old.  The child could be from nearly any state but most adoptions facilitated through the group we are working with come from Utah and Arizona.

When will you adopt?
We don't exactly know. Haha.  We do know that we will not adopt any earlier than when we go active (which means we are home study approved and have half the funds raised).  The group we are working with has said that the longest time it has taken one of their families to be home with their adoptive child, once they were active, was 7 months. However, you can match with a child and have that child in your arms within 24 hours of going active.  Yea.  Craziness.  
The best description I can provide you is one that was illustrated to me… Our adoption will be much like going to an airport and waiting to board a flight to pick up our child but we don't know when our flight will take off, where it is going, or who we are meeting when we get off the plane.  Lucky for us, we aren't big planners and tend to fly by the seat of our pants, so rather than breathing into a paper bag, we find this exhilarating! 

Will you get to know the birth mother?
We don't exactly know the answer to that either.  Are you seeing a pattern here? ;)  It is very likely that we may one day meet her.  I do hope to meet her.  I would love to have the opportunity to get to know her and thank her for her courage and sacrifice.  We are pursuing an open adoption, so it is very likely that we will have some form of communication with the birth mother at some time, but whether that is the day we match, in the delivery room, or when our child turns 16 years old… we simply don't know.

Let us know if you have any other question!  We so appreciate your interest and prayers!


Team Jones said...

Praying for you guys!!!! This is just amazing!!! I will have our girls and guys here pray for you as well!!

Sonia said...

Crazy excited for you!!!!!